What is holding you back from Financial Sobriety?

We can often feel completely paralyzed when it comes to starting to work on our Financial Sobriety. 

I often hear people when they tell me that they are feeling “stuck” with their money. Something is holding them back from starting. 

Instead of thinking that you are stuck, or that something is holding you back I would love for you to ask yourself “ What am I afraid to look at?”. 

Fear is real when it comes to our money. 

When was the last time you heard a conversation when someone talked about how good they are feeling about their money? When was the last time you heard a conversation when someone complained or said negative things about their money? I’m pretty sure that it was more recent that you heard someone using negative language about their money. 

The society that we live in has an overall negative narrative about money, other than consumerism telling you what will save...

There are so many parallels to addiction of spending and alcohol. This was my story. When I stopped drinking and started my sobriety from alcohol the addiction of spending came on strong. Different substance, same outcome. 

In recovery we have a saying, we peel the layers of the onion. When we start our recovery from one substance or situation we can often pick up something else in its place. Often if you are recovering from alcohol use disorder it can be replaced with food, sugar, spending, gambling, sex etc. I like to call it same sh*t, different pile. It’s all the same. We are reaching outside of ourselves to escape. We use something else as a coping mechanism. Some call it a really fun game of whack-a-mole. 

This is completely normal. 

In Lesson 4 we talked about understanding our financial feelings. This is where the parallels are really seen. The feelings. The things we are trying to numb out on. The void we are trying to fill. 

Part of my story is...